To Help and Be Helped

I’m one of those people who loves to help others. It fills me with a sense of satisfaction and usefulness. Therefore, I enjoy when people reach out and ask for my help with a problem I can solve. It feels really good to meet a real need.

Paradoxically, I’m terrible at asking for help when I need it. I feel guilty and ashamed. I feel like I’m asking for something I don’t deserve. But, when I do humbly accept and receive help I really needed, it feels so good.

I was last night years old when it occurred to me that in asking for help I’m likely opening the opportunity for those, like myself, that really are filled up by helping. It is a gift for them as much as it is a blessing for me. That by being vulnerable I’m allowing others to use their strengths. Also, I’m making it easier for them to ask of me in the future. Not because we consider a favor owed but because we have an understanding of the symbiosis between the helper and the helped. We’ve humbled ourselves and have been seen vulnerable and thus communicate to the other that it is safe to do so with us.

“There’s only one corner of the universe you can be certain of improving, and that’s your own self.”

— Aldous Huxley – Time Must Have a Stop (1944)

Thought I can’t get out of my head delivered by my wife this morning…

If a society has insisted on tying healthcare to employment, what happens when millions of people become unemployed and thus lose their healthcare due to a worldwide health crisis?

“Nature has taught me that if humans don’t figure out what revolution really means, nature will make the revolution despite us.”

— Tawana Petty

Doing some cleanup reminded me that…

  1. I still have my ZEOS Pocket PC (Cutting edge PC tech from 1991)
  2. It still boots (and runs for days on 2 AA batteries).
  3. Runs a DOS version of MS Works and can save to plaintext files which means…
  4. If one can get them off via the serial port and find something to connect it a “modern” machine can open and read said file which leads to…
  5. Me wondering what it might be like to try to write a book on here.