Rhoneisms

Some of my favorite items in my closet are ones I’ve had for a long time.

I have quite a few sweaters that I purchased in the late 80s and early 90’s that still look great.

I have a J Crew denim shirt from that same period with beautiful fading that I love to wear. Made in the USA with single needle stitching when such things were built that way by default.

I have a number of used and vintage items that my wife has picked up for me over the years from clothing exchanges or the buy/sell/trade/free groups she’s a member of on Facebook (more on this in a future post). Many of these have quickly become regular faves.

The truth of the matter is that, if you were to ask me to choose 10 of my most favorite items from my closet, I’d be willing to bet that 8-10 of theme will be things that I’ve had for decades or were free.

This forces me to face a the very question I keep coming back to year after year — why do I bother buying new clothes? Do I really need to? I already am, just based on the above alone, happy with everything I do own and own enough of each type of clothing one might need (tops, bottoms, underwear, socks, shoes).

Part of the issue is that I fall prey to marketing. I have a gmail account that I use specifically for BACN type promotional email from various clothing brands that I typically shop. I’m interested in fashion and am fascinated by what’s “in” and “out” of style seasonally. Additionally, I more often than not get ideas from these on how to style things I might already have or I see something I have in storage re-elevated, fashion wise (J Crew recently re-issued their classic late 80s rollneck sweater — I have 4 from I bought in that era). That said, too many times I’ve seen a promotional email and given in to a massive sale on a certain item —one for which I then find a genuine need to justify it — without really pausing to examine the reality and depth of that need. Without ever pausing to examine what enough is for me in this area.

The easiest way for me to avoid this in the future is to use the “Unsubscribe” on these email promotions liberally and with prejudice. If I want to stay true to my commitment to buy less,and truly do have everything I need, then I should have no reason going forward to know whatever the latest sale-on-sale is. The truth is that, if there is something I need, I’ll be aware of any sales and promotions the moment I visit any brand’s website to look.

As many who have followed me for a long time know, I strive to be a minimalist while my wife is, well, quite the opposite. That’s OK. We’ve learned to, at the least, honor each other’s preferences. In one particular case, that of not getting rid of clothing one is no longer wearing, I finally have to admit that she was right.

You see, for as long as I’ve known her she’s stored many boxes of clothes that she no longer wore for a variety of reasons. Some things no longer fit, some are sentimental, some are not currently in style, etc. Whenever I pressed a bit on these, she’d explain that the thought of having to buy something that she’d already bought again drove her nuts. That, often times, something that went out of style would come back again and, well, she’d be ready and could dig it out. Some things, like that favorite band shirt or that sweater she picked up at a Taiwanese street market that reminds her of that time in her life were worth holding on to in the same way the memory itself was — it was a talisman for a positive feeling. Perhaps, the one that is just a bit too small or large will one day fit again. She’d rather not have to spend money that she already feels like she spent.

While I pushed back on this for a long time, I’ve come around to her way of thinking. My recent experience with the jeans and chinos is a perfect example. There have also been times going through an old box of clothes of mine that I discover something cool or trendy that I had forgotten I had and it fills me with so much joy to wear it again. There are the “geek t-shirts” that I got during my many years working in the tech industry that flood me with positive memories just like her sentimental ones and I’m grateful I have them stashed away even if I no longer wear them.

The truth is, we have the space. The boxes of these clothes are not taking away anything or weighing on us cognitively. And they often do save us time and money when we do need to engage with them.

So, this is to say that it is OK to take some things and put them away for a bit if you have the space to do so. It is also OK to “shop yourself first” in this way as we do. It avoids the waste of duplication and buying brand new. It saves that garment from its possible destination in a landfill.

Of course, another way to ensure you get more life out of your clothes is through proper care and repair.

Where care is concerned, a surprisingly entertaining and useful read is the book Laundry Love: Finding Joy in a Common Chore by Patric Richardson and Karin B Miller. Patric is a true fanatic about the proper care of textiles. You’d think a book about laundry would be boring but you’d be wrong. This is mainly because it’s not only fascinating and fun to see someone so passionate about something, but also that there’s some genuinely useful information about caring for what you have.

A quick take-away from the book I can give here is this… Laundering is hard on clothes. Wash your clothes far less than you are likely used to. I mean, if you shower in the morning, put on deodorant, don’t sweat profusely, and are not in dusty/dirty environments then you can likely get away with wearing those items several times before washing. Just hang them up, let them air out a bit, and put them away. If you get a little food stain or something you can spot clean that out. The book offers plenty of sure-fire tips for all sorts of stains that work like a charm.

As far as repair goes, Patagonia has some great DIY repair guides and info that work for more than just Patagonia clothes. Worth checking out.

I’ve had several pairs of jeans taken care of locally by my friends at Science and Kindness and they do an excellent job. I know they also accept jobs by mail and they have all the equipment, including antique denim darning machines that were used at mining sites, to do the job well. I mean, their Instagram is flat out inspirational.

There are likely similar clothing repair services near where you live. Do a bit of investigation. No need to buy new when a simple fix to something you already have will do.

Of course, one of the best ways to reduce your clothes consumption is to buy well made, high quality clothes and footwear that last long and/or can be repaired.

The trade off will be that the price one pays for such things will be far higher than what you might otherwise be used to. The simple fact is that better made things are more expensive to make and thus are correspondingly more expensive to buy.

For instance, I’m really hard on footwear. Both shoots and socks. Unsure why but it’s been this way my whole life. My socks wear out or develop holes. The soles of my shoes lose their tread. I seem to go through such things at a much faster rate than many folks I know.

When a friend recommended Darn Tough Socks to me I was a bit skeptical. I mean, these socks are expensive (averaging about $25 a pair) and the Lifetime warranty seemed implausible for an item of clothing as seemingly disposable a socks. That said, I was willing to take a chance on a couple of pair and see how things shook out.

Well, these are now the only sock brand I wear. As my other socks wore out I replaced them with these. They last, easily, 3-4 times longer than any other socks I’ve worn on a regular basis. On the couple of occasions I’ve needed to replace a pair under warranty, it’s been easy, fast, and no-questions-asked. I feel like with that kind of promise I’ll actually not ever have to pay for a pair of socks again.

For casual shoes and work boots, Red Wing has become my main go to. I have a pair of camp mocs I wear in the spring/summer and a couple of pairs of work boots. Being in Minnesota these are made locally (in Red Wing Minnesota) and are not only made to last some of the harshest work environments but also are made to be re-soled and repaired. I’ve had occasion to do this with only one pair of the boots and, once again, the process was simple and the results worth the cost (less expensive than buying a new pair for sure).

I also own a pair LL Bean’s Bean Boots. They are an excellent choice if one is looking for quality fall/winter/rain boots and shoes that are long lasting and repair/re-soleable.

I have some Blundstones which are also high quality, comfortable and I wear them often but are not re-soleable and I have to say it does give me pause given how hard I am on shoes.

I know of other brands that also are of the same quality and repairability. Quoddy, Alden Shop, and Danner come most immediately to mind.

Bottom line is that when it comes to footwear it’s worth looking for brands that produce at high quality and are willing to stand behind the life of the product. You’ll pay more up front but the benefits of longevity, sustainability, and a commitment to buying less means that ultimately the higher price will pay for itself.

The fact is, you don’t need new clothes in most cases. I mean, until fairly recent history most people only had a couple of outfits — one for daily wear and one for church. If one got a rip or hole, one repaired it. If something became too damaged to wear, only then would it be replaced. Likely with the same thing (the pair of jeans on wore in the field would be replaced by another pair of the exact same jean which would be the only ones they carried at the general store and were made to order).

Obviously, this would not work for most today. But I point this out only to say that fashion and the idea of having multiple items of various pieces of clothing is a fairly recent idea history wise and it can be a useful reminder in taming our own desire for more and directing our attention from want to need.

The interesting/good thing is that there are many modern manufacturers who either recognize their own environmental impact and wish to make sure their values are properly aligned with their business (i.e. Patagonia) or see the growing interest in re-use/re-sell as an opportunity to be exploited for profit (i.e. Levi’s, probably). Smaller indie brands are getting into this game too (See: Ministry of Supply). Even fast and fast-ish fashion brands like J.Crew are dipping their feet into the archive/re-sell game.

Regardless of motivation, there are an increasing number of ways one can get used gear directly from the producers one might otherwise buy new from. And if for some reason you do need a new pair of jeans or tech-bro fleece vest, it is at least worth a check to see if you can get something gently used versus new.

I’m going to start a new thing here on the old blog I’m calling “A Daily Thread”. Sometimes, my mind gets thinking deeply enough on a topic to warrant a series of posts on it, versus trying to stuff all of those things into a single post. I was thinking about how to best group such things together. Therefore, I’ve created a new category for these titled “thread”. That way, if you just want to see all of the posts grouped in this way, one can.

Not sure this is the right solution but let’s roll with it for now…

To start with, I’ll be making a few posts on a topic that’s been on my mind lately and that’s clothes. I tend to dwell on clothes a lot at this time of year. Something with the change of seasons. I begin to think a lot about what I have, what I need, what should be in my wardrobe closet and what should be in storage, etc.

One of my new year’s intentions for the past two years has been “No new clothes”. This is for many reasons… The minimalist in me knows I really don’t need much and have everything I do need. Clothes are a huge environmental issue. There are plenty of good ways to buy gently used clothing — even these days from the companies that produce/sell new (more on this at later time and other post). So, there really is no good reason I shouldn’t be able to stick to my intention.

That said, I have for the most part failed at this. For any number of reasons. Not the least of which is my own inability to resist the occasional purchase, especially when I can find a pretty good reason I may need it.

For instance, I’ve lost about 20 pounds in the last few months. Therefore, most of the jeans, chinos, and trousers in my closet were, quite literally, falling off of me. So, I did have a good reason to buy a new pair of jeans (on sale) and a new pair of chinos (at Costco) to actually have one of each that fit my new waist size.

My plan was to then pack away all of the jeans/trousers that no longer fit as part of my bi-annual wardrobe switch out of my spring/summer clothes to my fall/winter ones. In doing so, when I opened the box I store jeans that no longer fit, I discovered several pair within that, at the time I packed them, were too small for me. Now, three of those pair fit me just fine. So, I could have shopped my own closet all along and stayed true to my intention.

So, I learned a valuable lesson here… Shop myself first. I must force myself to remember to regularly look at what I already might have to meet my needs. The truth is, I likely have it already and, if I don’t, could still likely find/buy it without buying new.